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Marriage and the Road Trip, Part 4 of 4

Married life can be comparable to an extended road trip…spending long hours together deciding where to go, how to get there, what to eat and who’s driving. There’s bad weather, dull conversations, and traffic to make the trip difficult sometimes (not to mention occasionally getting lost), however, find the right traveling companion and follow a few key rules of road etiquette, and your bound to have a great time…and collect a lot of great road trip memories.

This post begins a multipart series of tips for marital bliss. I hope you appreciate my suggestions, and that they contribute to a smoother ride for you and your beloved companion.

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Park the Car, Rent a Limo, and Leave the Kids with Your Parents:
On your fifteenth cup of Texaco coffee? Tired of hearing the kids ask, “Are we there yet?” Starting to count the lines in the middle of the road? Good. It’s time for some extreme action. That’s right, ditch fiscal and domestic responsibility for the weekend. Park the Car, Rent a Limo, and Leave the Kids with Your Parents for a few days.

Life always tends to spiral into the steady plodding of humdrum responsibilities and habits. That’s a great thing! Habits and responsibilities are what raise children, provide a comfortable home, and built dynasties. Unfortunately, they don’t nurture motivation and perspective. Every now and then, you’ve got to get a fresh view of your life. Every once in a while, tragedy or reward will provide that opportunity for you…but these circumstances hardly provide opportunities to nurture your marriage. So plan them yourselves.

Stacy and I get away once every four months, three times a year. We check out of the apartment and into a nice hotel, even if it’s only 10 miles away. We spend a few days eating out, visiting new places, and pursuing new interests. Because we’re together 24/7 away from home, we stop discussing bills and work, and start talking about struggles, insights, and plans for the future. As a result, we starting getting that romantic feeling again, and just enjoy one another’s company. While we wish the vacation lasted longer, we feel better about going back to work after it’s over. And it tends to keep that feeling of “us” alive apart from the bills, the kids, and the home that tend to define us for the over 350 days of the year.

A lot of people talk about doing a date night once a week, where you get out of the house once every week or two. While I agree that this is a great idea, you need more than a couple of hours a week to kindle the flame. My suggestion: do both.

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