Journeyman Project Dispatches from the Life of Patrick Fowler: Christianity Explored


Excellent Marriage Counsel – The Song of Solomon – Tom Nelson

I first heard Tom Nelson a decade ago, when I attended his conference at Liberty University in Lynchburg Virginia. No lie, I was told by one of the campus pastors that I was the world's biggest fool if I did not attend the conference--it was an extreme statement--but it was worthwhile. The conference definitely reprogrammed me for a godly future relationship with Stacy, who also attended that conference. I am incredibly grateful that I took the time to go.

Still today, I pass the audio from that conference on. It is incredibly helpful to people in every stage of relationships: dating, married, considering divorce, even divorced. I highly recommend the conference to you too. I am grateful that this resource--one of the best I have found, is available to the world for free. Denton Bible has not, and does not sell material to make a profit, from what I have seen. Here's the link, along with some key notes from the message, The Art of Conflict, from that series.

  • Don’t react to your spouse, respond to God.
  • Can’t love your spouse? Not as a friend. Not as an outsider. Love them as an enemy.
  • What you do in marriage effects EVERYTHING else. Your family, your friendships, your success at work. God sees that your private life affects the public.
  • God can’t deal with your spouse if you are trying to punish, manipulate, or insult them. Doing so would add too much legitimacy to your actions—and he is not about tearing down, he is about building up.


Differences between Men and Women…

Found this today, and loved it. Hope it makes you laugh!

A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he wants; a woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn’t want, but that’s on sale.

A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband; a man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

A successful man is one who makes moer money than his wife can spend; a successful woman is one who can find such a man.

To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little; to be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not to understand her at all.

Any married man should forget his mistakes—there’s no use in two people remembering the same thing.

A woman marries a man expecting him to change, but he doesn’t. a man marries a woman expecting that she won’t change, and she does.

A woman has the last word in any argument; anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

Any long term relationship requires us to:

  • Wade through a few difficult seasons
  • Work for many things that are necessary
  • Wait on some things that take time
  • Watch out for those things that are harmful
  • Wave goodbye to personal things that are selfish


Movie Review: Fireproof

Stacy and I are avid movie watchers. Our small group used to find it humorous how often we would relate a thought from real life to a movie scene. Something inside me can illustrate any sermon point from a good wholesome movie. I've even got them catagorized in my head--

On Leadership and Teamwork: Down Periscope, Armageddon, King Arthur and The Star Trek Originals.
On Marriage: Cinderella Man, the Incredibles, Fun with Dick and Jane, the Family Man, and Rocky III.
On History: Schindler's List, Good Night and Good Luck, Cinderella Man, Rambo, and Hotel Rwanda.
And on God at work in life: A Walk to Remember, A Nativity Story, The Prince of Egypt, Evan Almighty, Chronicles of Narnia. (there are many more, but this list is already too long)

After this past Friday, we've added another movies to our definitive favorites list: Fireproof.

What's funny, is that Stacy and I don't have much taste for Christian produced movies. We've seen the Jesus film, watched numerous local and crusade productions, and reluctantly added the Passion to our collection...but don't typically find these pictures true enough to life. Fireproof is a HUGE exception, however. We are still thinking of the rich humor, cinematography, and true-to-life depictions in the movie. We'll be quoting the lines from it back and forth for years to come, and highly recommend that you pick it up on your next opportunity for a seriously rich movie. I've included a short clip here, in case you'd like to witness a bit of movie magic. The trailer is also available, and can be viewed by clicking this link, here.


VERY Funny: Married vs. Single Life

Today I stumbled upon a very funny contribution to the banter between married and single people. writes regarding his tips for getting people married, here's a short exerpt of the full article, available here.

1. Always tell your single friends that marriage is awesome.

2. Start every sentence with "my husband" or "my wife."

3. When they describe their weekend, always reply with "awww."

4. Don't let them throw the Paul (the apostle was single) card.

I must admit that I start a lot of sentences with "Stacy and I".


Marriage and the Road Trip, Part 4 of 4

Married life can be comparable to an extended road trip…spending long hours together deciding where to go, how to get there, what to eat and who’s driving. There’s bad weather, dull conversations, and traffic to make the trip difficult sometimes (not to mention occasionally getting lost), however, find the right traveling companion and follow a few key rules of road etiquette, and your bound to have a great time…and collect a lot of great road trip memories.

This post begins a multipart series of tips for marital bliss. I hope you appreciate my suggestions, and that they contribute to a smoother ride for you and your beloved companion.