A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he wants; a woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn’t want, but that’s on sale.

A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband; a man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

A successful man is one who makes moer money than his wife can spend; a successful woman is one who can find such a man.

To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little; to be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not to understand her at all.

Any married man should forget his mistakes—there’s no use in two people remembering the same thing.

A woman marries a man expecting him to change, but he doesn’t. a man marries a woman expecting that she won’t change, and she does.

A woman has the last word in any argument; anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

Any long term relationship requires us to:

• Wade through a few difficult seasons
• Work for many things that are necessary
• Wait on some things that take time
• Watch out for those things that are harmful
• Wave goodbye to personal things that are selfish

This week’s quotes are selected contents from John C. Maxwell’s Winning with People

“The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Five Principles that deal with Trust:
1. The Bedrock Principle: Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
2. The Situation Principle: Never let the situation mean more than the relationship.
3. The Bob Principle: When Bob has a problem with everyone, Bob is usually the problem.
4. The Approachability Principle: Being at ease with ourselves helps others be at ease with us.
5. The Foxhole Principle: When preparing for battle, dig a hole big enough for a friend.

The Bedrock Principle: Am I a Trustworthy Person?
“It is a greater compliment to be trusted than to be loved.” ~ George MacDonald

“A blessed thing it is for any man or woman to have a friend, one human soul whom we can trust utterly, who knows the best and worst of us, and who loves us in spite of all our faults.” ~ Charles Kingsley

1. Trust begins with yourself:
“This above all: To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.” ~ William Shakespeare

2. Trust cannot be Compartmentalized:
“One of the realities of life is that if you can’t trust a person at all points, you can’t truly trust him or her at any point.” ~ Cheryl Biehl

What a person will do with you, he’ll also do to you.

3. Trust works like a bank account:
Positive interactions make deposits, and negative ones withdrawl. A positive balance yields a good relationship, a negative balance will keep you from doing business.

What do you do when a person is untrustworthy?
1. Forgive them.
2. Explain that the violation must never happen again.
3. Remember their better moments.
4. Give them opportunities to rebuild trust.

The real art of conversation
is not only to say the right thing in the right place,
but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.
~ Lady Dorothy Nevill

Ask yourself, “Am I ready to Confront? Is the other person ready to hear?”
“Is my Reaction Part of the Problem?”

The way you treat people will stay with them a lot longer than the words you use.

The Elevator Principle: We can life people up, or take people down
People can be the wind beneath your wings
or the anchor of your boat.

People who add value to others almost always do so intentionally…
If you don’t know how to add to others, then you probably subtract by default.

I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.

What is the quality of your intent?
Certain people have a way of saying things that shake us at the core. Even when the words do not seem harsh or offensive, the impact is shattering. What we could be experiencing is the intent behind the words. When we intend to do good, we do. When we intend to do harm, it happens. What each of us must come to realize is that our intent always comes through. We cannot sugarcoat the feelings in our heart of hearts. The emotion is the energy that motivates. We cannot ignore what we really want to create. We should be honest and do it the way we feel it. What we owe to ourselves and everyone around is to examine the reasons of our true intent.
My intent will be evident in the results.”

~ Thurgood Marshall

Excellence is to do a common thing
in an uncommon way.
~ Booker T. Washington

Be sure to put your feet in the right place,
then stand firm.
~ Abraham Lincoln

Be the change you wish to see in the world.
~ Ghandi

A person who doubts himself
is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies
and bear arms against himself.
He makes his failure certain
by himself being the first person to be convinced of it.
~ Alexander Dumas

A difficult time can be more readily endured
if we retain the conviction that our existence holds a purpose—
a cause to pursue, a person to love, a goal to achieve.
~ John Maxwell, Scottish Noble

One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized, and cruelly mocked,
but it cannot be taken away unless it is surrendered.
~ Michael J. Fox

They say the world has become too complex for simple answers.
They are wrong.
~ Ronald Reagan

We find comfort among those who agree with us—
growth among those who don’t.
~ Frank A. Clark

Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they’ve got a second.
Give your dreams all you’ve got and you’ll be amazed at the energy that comes out of you!
~ William James