The Foxhole Principle: When preparing for battle, dig a hole big enough for a friend.
“In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. The young, they keep out of mischief; to the old they are a comfort and aid in their weakness, and those in the prime of life they incite to noble deeds. ~ Aristotle
Two people are better than one,
because they get more done by working together.
If one falls down,
the other can help him up.
But it is bad for the person who is alone and falls,
because no one is there to help.
If two lie down together, they will be warm,
but a person alone will not be warm.
An enemy might defeat one person,
but two people together can defend themselves;
a rope that is woven of three strings is hard to break.
~ Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
“in the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
“We must, indeed, all hang together or, most assuredly, we shall hang separately.” Benjamin Frankin upon signing the Declaration of Independence
When a small girl was late returning home, she had this to say: “I’m sorry I’m late, Dad. My friend’s doll broke right when I was supposed to leave.”
“And I suppose you were helping her fix it?” her dad replied.
“No,” she replied, “I was helping her cry.”
Leslie D. Weatherhead wrote about two friends who were soldier together. When one was injured and could not return to safety, the other went out after him against officer’s orders. When he returned with the dead soldier, he was mortally wounded himself. Though his officer felt justified, the dying soldier said that it had been worth it. His friend had been alive when the soldier first reached him, and he had said, “I knew you’d come,” before dying.
Found this today, and loved it. Hope it makes you laugh!
A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he wants; a woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn’t want, but that’s on sale.
A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband; a man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.
A successful man is one who makes moer money than his wife can spend; a successful woman is one who can find such a man.
To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little; to be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not to understand her at all.
Any married man should forget his mistakes—there’s no use in two people remembering the same thing.
A woman marries a man expecting him to change, but he doesn’t. a man marries a woman expecting that she won’t change, and she does.
A woman has the last word in any argument; anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.
Any long term relationship requires us to:
- Wade through a few difficult seasons
- Work for many things that are necessary
- Wait on some things that take time
- Watch out for those things that are harmful
- Wave goodbye to personal things that are selfish
Some things change, and some don’t. My quotable quotes were interrupted for a while, as I made changes in my role and life…but I hope you find their return to be a pleasant surprise in the future. If this is your first time reading the Quotable Quotes, they are a light-hearted weekly post that I’ve passed onto friends from my own sources (none of that forwarded SPAM email we all love so much).
This week’s quotes are selected contents from John C. Maxwell’s Winning with People
“The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Five Principles that deal with Trust:
1. The Bedrock Principle: Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
2. The Situation Principle: Never let the situation mean more than the relationship.
3. The Bob Principle: When Bob has a problem with everyone, Bob is usually the problem.
4. The Approachability Principle: Being at ease with ourselves helps others be at ease with us.
5. The Foxhole Principle: When preparing for battle, dig a hole big enough for a friend.
The Bedrock Principle: Am I a Trustworthy Person?
“It is a greater compliment to be trusted than to be loved.” ~ George MacDonald
“A blessed thing it is for any man or woman to have a friend, one human soul whom we can trust utterly, who knows the best and worst of us, and who loves us in spite of all our faults.” ~ Charles Kingsley
1. Trust begins with yourself:
“This above all: To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.” ~ William Shakespeare
2. Trust cannot be Compartmentalized:
“One of the realities of life is that if you can’t trust a person at all points, you can’t truly trust him or her at any point.” ~ Cheryl Biehl
What a person will do with you, he’ll also do to you.
3. Trust works like a bank account:
Positive interactions make deposits, and negative ones withdrawl. A positive balance yields a good relationship, a negative balance will keep you from doing business.
What do you do when a person is untrustworthy?
1. Forgive them.
2. Explain that the violation must never happen again.
3. Remember their better moments.
4. Give them opportunities to rebuild trust.
Genius is the ability to reduce the complicated to the simple.
~ C. W. Ceran
Excellence is to do a common thing
in an uncommon way.
~ Booker T. Washington
Be sure to put your feet in the right place,
then stand firm.
~ Abraham Lincoln
Be the change you wish to see in the world.
~ Ghandi
A person who doubts himself
is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies
and bear arms against himself.
He makes his failure certain
by himself being the first person to be convinced of it.
~ Alexander Dumas
A difficult time can be more readily endured
if we retain the conviction that our existence holds a purpose—
a cause to pursue, a person to love, a goal to achieve.
~ John Maxwell, Scottish Noble
One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized, and cruelly mocked,
but it cannot be taken away unless it is surrendered.
~ Michael J. Fox
He who controls others may be powerful,
but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.
~ Lao Tzu
They say the world has become too complex for simple answers.
They are wrong.
~ Ronald Reagan
We find comfort among those who agree with us—
growth among those who don’t.
~ Frank A. Clark
Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they’ve got a second.
Give your dreams all you’ve got and you’ll be amazed at the energy that comes out of you!
~ William James
